OOC: Mini PSA - How to Deal with Harassment and Criticism
Because apparently there’s some confusion. I’m not going to sugar-coat this like I normally do, because I keep seeing shit about this all over my dash no matter where I turn. So here’s how it goes:
Someone sends you anonymous hate or harasses you.
Good reactions:
-Ignore it.
-Explain your views calmly, considerately, and rationally without making excuses or justifications.
-Attempt to see your behavior from an unbiased perspective. Yes, sometimes people are just assholes. But other times it’s on your own head, and it’s up to you to be mature enough to know the difference.
-With the above in mind, actually consider what the other person has to say. They are not your enemy just because they may be saying something you don’t want to hear. In fact, if you’re reacting with anger to a rational argument, that says more about you than them.
-Realize that this is the internet and people will harass you. It happens to everyone. Me, my friends, people I don’t know. Everyone.
-Realize it’s not personal.
-Do not draw attention to it. If you must respond, do so and deflect it as quickly as possible. Get back to what you’re doing. You will not help anything by continuing to focus on it.
-Take out your frustration and anger elsewhere.
-If you must respond, think out your response in a calm, collected manner. The internet is like a court of law - anything you say can and will be used against you. So think long and hard about what you want to say and how you want to say it.
Bad reactions:
-Apologize to the person who is harassing you. Their views and opinions are not your responsibility.
-Make excuses for your behavior. You don’t owe anyone anything.
-Continue to focus on harassment. Once it’s done, it’s done. People harass to get a reaction out of their target. Don’t react, no harassment. It’s simple.
-Take your anger out on other people. You’re doing no good if you can’t channel your feelings elsewhere and you only make others feel bad in the process.
And if you don’t feel that you can handle issues in a good way:
You have two options.
-Continue to put up with harassment until you can react in a mature, constructive manner, or
-Leave.
[Hey, sorry for the intrusion. I just thought this might be useful here, too, to get the word out a little better.
We now return to your regularly-scheduled silliness.]
![askminicrow:
ALL THE TIMEEEEE
IT’S MY FAVORITE THING
FOR THE MAD HATTER…
RIDDLER IS A LITTLE BIT HARDER
CAUSE HE’S SOOOOOO SMART
HROO~
[Sup guys it’s Arkham because he seemed like the most appropriate and apparently it’s impossible for me to leave Bia’s characters out of my stupid ask blogs. :’D]](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3o7nz58eF1rvohk5o1_1280.png)
